MDH 59 | Learning From Mistakes

MDH 59 | Learning From Mistakes


You won’t gain much listening to massive success stories like Elon Musk. What you need to do to mature is learning from mistakes of others. Victoria Wieck sits with Arnaud Henneville-Wedholm, entrepreneur, optimist, and the author of How Hard Can It Be. Arnaud shares how he opens his book with a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt. It says, “Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.” Don’t be afraid to fail your way to success. You need to trust what you can do and have that resilience and drive to change the world. If you want more tips on developing perseverance, listen to this episode.

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How Hard Can It Be – Why Learning From Mistakes Is Important To Success With Arnaud Henneville-Wedholm

Every week I try to bring you some relevant content to your life as an entrepreneur or aspiring entrepreneur. No matter what stage of entrepreneurship you’re at, this show is going to be inspiring but in a way that’s very realistic. A lot of times, people who are into inspiring and encouraging are eternal optimists. They don’t see the realistic side of things. When you get hit with reality, you’re wondering what happened to me.

It’s a known fact that the failure rate of small businesses is somewhere north of 75% to 90% in the first five years. Even if you make it beyond the five years, there is still a 50% failure rate between 5 to 10 years. Why is it? There are two known facts that we know. The first one is the lack of customers. The second one is the lack of funding. The third one is lack of visibility and the fourth one is the one that we’re going to talk about now.

It has a lot to do with your entrepreneurship mindset. It’s also a known fact that most entrepreneurs suffer from a lack of resilience and persistence because they give up the first time if something major happens to their business. They give up on their life dream and all of the dreams you had about helping other people, amplifying your mission, improving other people’s lives come to a halt. I have somebody who can talk about this from not a theoretical view but he’s experienced this in his own life. I’m going to tell you that you’re going to be fascinated with this. His name is Arnaud Henneville-Wedholm. I know it’s a mouthful. We’re going to call him Arnaud. Welcome to the show.

Thank you, Victoria. Thanks a lot for welcoming me to your show.

Tell my readers a little bit about your entrepreneurship journey and some of the times when you didn’t succeed. A little bit about that and we’ll dive into why you wrote the book called How Hard Can It Be.

I’ve always been in an entrepreneurial setting. I’ve done things and tried to achieve things on my own. I’ve always had, from a young age, this ambition of creating something for myself. I created some small businesses, even I was younger but what I had over everything else is this grit and mindset of consistently, systematically going into the household. I’m fighting my way through and making it happen.

I’ve set up a few businesses even before doing a real job. Eventually, I graduated with an MBA from the UK and started working as a Management Consultant in a large consultancy firm doing change management. We are doing behavioral change. We’re helping large organizations to cascade strategic initiatives within the organization.

We’re changing, helping leaders to develop the capacity and skills to execute on important corporate strategies for large operations, Coca-Cola, AT&T, big monsters that are complex to maneuver. After several years or so of doing that, a colleague and I decided to go on our own and try our luck into challenging Facebook.

You always had the entrepreneurial spirit in you and you wanted to find your own path to success. Most of them didn’t succeed at that point. You decided to go to a corporate world where you did the corporate management and learned how the large corporations lay out their strategies, execution, scale and optimize their total resources. What were the lessons that you learned comparing the small businesses that you failed at versus the large-scale corporations that were doing something right?

In those big systems, it’s hard to feel that you make a difference yourself. It’s the sum of all the people that make it happen. It’s all about the team and everything that comes through to support the team to execute. It’s easier than doing it on your own and trusting yourself in having all that resilience and drive to change the world. That’s what small entrepreneurs, everyday entrepreneurs, have to have to make something of substance and try to bend the universe.

Trust yourself and have that resilience and drive to change the world.

I’ve seen it right off when I tried my different ventures prior to working in large corp and afterward when we decided to challenge Facebook. I was working there in 2010. Facebook is starting to pick up speed and traction. It’s six years of business to have 800,000 users. Everyone is talking about what’s going on with Facebook. What is the relation with social networks and depression?

You start having a lot of research around the effect of playing with the Like button on teens. A lot of that is happening. At the same time, we, as management consultants, cannot understand why would so many people be excited by pressing a Like button, doing it from their sofas and not engaging in the real world.

From a behavioral perspective, it was a bit odd to us. We thought that we could create a social network that would bring back people into the real world, taking them out of their couch and pushing them into doing things for real. The mechanism was a challenge. Our network was based on a very simple thing, which is that forever people have been driven by self-actualization. It’s all about what you have to do to reach the higher level of the Maslow pyramid.

Since the beginning of ages, we’ve been trying to get out of the cave and slowly but surely, move away from the fire camp and become greater versions of ourselves. We’re discovering new lands, we’ve come up with technologies and that’s what we do as a human. We thought that this idea of bringing back people into the world by doing things that they wanted to do as per this idea of self-actualizing made a lot of sense, hence the challenge idea.

It’s like a real story of David and Goliath. You’ve got to take on something as big as that and you don’t have funds. You don’t really have the system’s built-in. At that point, Facebook was rapidly getting investors and was pretty much putting on almost impossible barriers to entry for most people. Most of our entrepreneurs here are not at that point. Let’s get back on point, which is how hard could it be?

Your title of the book is very appropriate. We are now living in the era of the Great Resignation. A significant percentage of the people who are quitting their jobs is 3 to 4 million every single month. They are younger. There are the Millennials too. They’re at the height of what they should be doing in terms of building their careers and financial resources for the future. 3 to 4 million people per month are alarming.

All the research and we’re talking real extensive research by UPS, VistaPrint, Forbes, Census Bureau, these are very big research. They have shown that 63% of Americans want to do their own thing. Of the people that quit their jobs, about 30% of them have already started a side hustle. The other 70% of those people want to start something but they don’t know how to get started. Tell us in point by point, maybe three points about How Hard Can It Be. Why is it so hard?

It’s rough and that’s the starting point. We went through the statistics. The reason for the title of the book is that, “How hard can it be?” is the question we ask as an entrepreneur when we go into something. “How hard can it be to displace Facebook,” which is what we went after. In truth, it is harder than you think it will be.

In what way? Is it funding or getting customers? Is it in promising time?

Everything is hard on that journey unless you have the brilliant idea that you are going to go after. First, it’s about coming up with an idea. The cytosol is something else because you can try to do something on the side but I believe in going all-in because otherwise if you are half-committed, what you get is half of the results.

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I’m into committing yourself to something that you are passionate about or at least you believe that you are passionate about. That’s a big one because people tend to think, “I’ll find my passion first and then I’ll go after it.” I think that’s backward. Everyone is passionate about something whether it’s a hobby or something that you can feel inside you that this is for you. For you, it was jewelry. For other people is other things, sports, diet or whatnot.

That passion somehow will change as you move along and go forward. It’s okay for me to start with something that you believe in and put all into that venture, all your sweat, commitment, ideas, vision, dedication and see how far you can go. If you don’t, you will turn around and most likely, you will regret not having pushed and you won’t push the second time once you’ve given up. The first thing is to go into the one thing that you believe.

That’s the journey of entrepreneurship. It’s up and down. It’s the valleys and the deeps. It’s hard because getting customers and lending finance are very hard. You don’t lend a couple of millions overnight. Getting traction is super hard. Throughout that journey, you will experience hardship. It will be complicated but nevertheless, you have to keep going, which is why passion helps initially.

It’s interesting because in my own journey I did what you said, which was to go all-in. At the time I started my jewelry company, I had a colleague and a very good friend. I didn’t have any money and anybody who was a jeweler in my family. I didn’t have anybody who was a business person in my family.

My father was a Professor. When he came to America, he couldn’t teach because he didn’t speak English. I had a colleague who had a well-paying job and didn’t want to go all-in because he thought he could do his as a side hustle. He was already in the related business, had family connections and had some money.

There were quite a few people that started their companies right around the same time. I was the only one that quit the job. I didn’t have family backing and money. Yet, I was the only one that succeeded after a few years. After several years, there was a huge divide. I believe the reason why those people didn’t succeed is that when they were going to work during the day, they were making $100,000, $150,000, $200,000. They’re giving their best hours from about 7:00 AM to 6:00 PM to that company. You’re coming home exhausted. You’re dealing with your family, got a kid and you want to be a great parent and spouse.

Your business always takes a second priority. Unless you have a strong business idea, there is very little chance that will succeed. The other thing you can do is you can start it as a side hustle only as a testing ground and then you’re going to have to eventually transition into a business that could sustain, grow and scale.

Those of you who are reading now, you can sign up for a lot of my freebie classes. I talked about, without passion, you don’t have a business. When things get rough and you hit a month or you got no revenue, You hit a month where you find out that the stuff that shipped out had a defect and you have to be called. There are all kinds of crazy things that could happen. When a small business would be called, it could be 50 pieces but it’s everything you have.

When that happens, if you are passionate and this is what you breathe and live for, it’s easier to stomach those hours and lumps and say, “I’m passionate about it. I don’t know what happened but I’m going to fix this.” Rather than if you were in there for the money, you’re like, “This isn’t making me any money now. I’m going to quit.” Doing what you’re passionate about in those times helps you stay consistent and be a little bit more resilient.

For me, even those times when I thought my business was going to be done with it, over with, as your business grows, the stakes are higher. One mistake can get you down. I was able to sit back and say, “Even though I may lose everything tomorrow, the sun will rise. I enjoyed all that time that I’ve had with this business. If I had to do it over again, I’d do it again.” In those times when stakes were high, I could go under and compromise. I doubled down and then I grew. What you’re preaching is something that I’ve experienced myself.

All those facets are hard. What are the tips that you could offer? In your book, How Hard Can It Be, you talk about all the things that could go wrong and how hard it is. What you’re trying to do is you’re trying to let people know that entrepreneurship. When you look at all the people who made millions of dollars like Jeff Bezos, Richard Branson and Elon Musk, all those people are entrepreneurship unicorns.

Start with what you believe in today, put your sweat and commitment into that venture, and see how far you can go.

They’re rare and most people don’t know if they’re real. When you look at their stories, they are latent with failure. Look at Bezos, it was at several years. We all listened to his earnings call on CNBC, talking about why he didn’t make his numbers. Why his losses were bigger than the last month but he continued on. Everybody thought he was crazy.

It’s the same thing with Elon Musk. If you read his book, it was 5 to 10 years. People thought he was a joke in Silicon Valley. They thought, “This guy is for real.” Are there any tips that you have in your book that you can share that help them? This is reality but what are the things you could do to succeed in that environment? It’s a jungle out there when it comes to entrepreneurship now.

You raised quite important points. First of all, most we’d fail, as you say 90%. When you look around for tips, advice and content that could support you, the stories that are relayed aren’t relatable. If there are stories about failure and stories that you can learn from because you won’t learn anything from the massive successes of Elon Musk, are stories of failure because you learn from the mistakes of others.

I opened my book with a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt, which is, “You should leverage, use the learnings from the failure of others because you can’t possibly long enough to make them all yourself and you can’t. The purpose of the book is to show some tips that you can learn from and help you achieve the success you’re after.

What are the tips that you can offer to small entrepreneurs to succeed in the environment where you’re going to be faced with failure after failure? To expand upon your point that you learn more from your failures than you do from success stories, for example, my kids played competitive tennis. They were both nationally ranked. They played college tennis.

As a tennis mom, I watch my kids play. Sometimes they get lucky with the draw and they’ll get somebody who is ranked 185 or something in the nation but sometimes they’ll get the number one draw opening round. They’ll be like, “He’s got to be the next Roger Federer. I’m sitting here hitting poles over here. What’s my luck?”

When they excelled and their tennis game was not when they won one of those easy draws but when they lost those close games, where it came down to the last six points and they keep thinking about, “I should have come in earlier. I should’ve hit a volley. I shouldn’t have hit a back end.” They think about their strategy and that’s when you grow.

What I like to say is that with every challenge and obstacle in your entrepreneurship journey, there is a gift that’s wrapped in there. I always teach people how to not only embrace failure but plan your failure. When you’re launching a business, I always ask people to launch you’re a good, better, best. When you launch three-tiered of the same product something is not going to work because people are not going to buy the good, better and best. They’re going to buy 1 of those 3 things. The other two, by nature, will fail. Understanding failure is a key ingredient to success

We’ll fail our way to success.

Get up and fall forward.

MDH 59 | Learning From Mistakes

Learning From Mistakes: Fail your way to success.


Go beyond and embrace failure. The strategy is to get uncomfortable on purpose like by design. That touches a bit upon the point you made earlier. When you are working full-time, you come home and you decide that you don’t have the time and energy because you’ve been tied up with all the things, you are too comfortable in a way because the moment you are completely committed to the thing you are going after.

When you do the journey yourself, you are going through those deeps, difficulties and the struggle of landing a customer, not having enough inventory or whatever business you may be in, on design, putting yourself into difficult situations will help you be comfortable with potential failure along the way and you will.

You can put that into the context of a sport like you did. I personally do that every time I go running or go to the gym. You don’t grow muscles by lifting the same weight over and over. You grow muscle because you break the muscle fiber and then you build on top. You have to lift heavier and heavier to get growth. It’s the same mechanism. It’s the same for running. I don’t know if you run but I run quite a lot. It’s always the same pain. Regardless of how many times you go running at 10, 15, 20 kilometers, you will find the exact same struggle. It won’t get easier. Everything is the same.

You raised a good point here, which is when you’re starting your business and trying to make the first $50,000. I’ve been there. Trust me, it’s very painful and it’s a lot of work. You wonder every single day, “Am I ever going to get a break? or this was a stupid idea. Why did I think I was going to succeed in this? There are a lot of people that are smarter and have more money than me. They didn’t succeed. What the heck was I thinking?”

I lived in LA at the time. I had an LA Times-like employment board next to me the whole time. It’s circled in red thinking like, “I should start to get a backup job.” I still pushed on. The first $50,000 is pretty painful. You get a little bit of money, things are nice. I did the first $300,000 and I’m like, “This is great. It’s wonderful. I’m going to go buy some furniture because I finally have some money to buy.” I was living in a two-bedroom apartment. I thought to myself, “I could get myself a desk.”

At that point, I realized every order I shipped because your margin isn’t that huge, if anything goes wrong with any of those things, that could wipe my total profit. The stresses are different and then you have to invest money. You have to have somebody to help you. I hired help and all that. At that point, I now have an office and a couple of employees. I have to do $300,000 a month to sustain myself. How am I going to do that? It’s the same pain now but it’s much bigger.

The good news is you went through that pain. You understood you have some skills to get a response rate. You know what’s working. You know why direct mail doesn’t work. Phone calls worked better for me. When I went from $300,000 to the first $1 million and that was within the first eighteen months, by the time I was doing $1 million, my conversion rate was about 40%. You learned how to tweak up to that point.

I’m going to tell you ladies and gentlemen who are reading because a lot of my readers are female entrepreneurs. I’m very honest and upfront. I always tell people when I coach and do free webinars, in fact, I did one and it was like a mastermind class, “Don’t sign up for any of my classes if you think all you have to do is sign up for this class and listen to me for a weekly Zoom because it’s not rosy and not easy. You are going to have to do a lot of work. It’s the only way you’re going to get there.”

I find it a lot of fun. I wake up every morning after many years in business, $500 million to $750 million in sales. I’ve got plenty of money. I’m not saying I’m Oprah or anything like that. Remember, I started my company wanting to make $2,000 a month. As an entrepreneur, you never know when a rainy day, year or decade will come. I never learned to be extravagant in any way. I never learned to be braggadocious. I stayed humble. I always try to pay back and pay forward.

I drive a Yukon. I don’t drive any fancy cars. I got plenty of money for the lifestyle that I live. I was on a live radio show at 6:00 in the morning because it was 9:00 East Coast time. I was so excited to share my vision because one of my favorite lines from Whitney Houston’s song, Destiny, that said, “My finest day is yet unknown.” I’m an eternal optimist and I look for my finest day, which could be tomorrow. It’s in the future. It’s not in the past.

“Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

For all of you who are reading, if you’re 1 of the 3 to 4 million Americans who quit their jobs in the last several months, it’s probably about 20 million or so by now. I’m hearing that trend is only going to continue more. I still encourage you to start short businesses to find your passion and purpose in life. Live your life with gratitude and intention.

When you do, you can directly impact your family, your community, your world to make it better, healthier, happier and you can heal the planet this way rather than working for some horrible boss who’s going to tell you what you’re worth. That’s in the best-case scenario. In the worst-case scenario, they tell you, you’re not worth anything or that you’re only worth something if you do it my way. A lot of these corporations are just into profits. They’re not into helping people.

The other thing I would say too and this is from my heart is if you get down to this, everything you need to succeed in life and be happy, you had it the day you were born. Don’t let any expert or anybody to tell you that you can’t do this or you can’t do that. Tune it all out. If you believe in something, it’s a matter of, “How am I going to get there? How am I going to get my message out?” I know it’s hard. Getting visibility and traction is hard. You can come to my website. I do a whole webinar on that one thing.

Getting visibility and traction in the first two years. That’s not going to be easy either. I give you a lot of things you can do to get there but you got to do them. I have a home gym here. We bought a whole new SoulCycle Bike. I don’t know how much it was. We already had an elliptical, treadmill, a noted track. I have all the weights here plus we’ve got a boxing thing. He says to me, “We already have an entire gym here. The problem with that is you don’t lose weight. You don’t get in shape by looking at those. Those machines have to be used. You just use the ones you already have.”

We have the bike and all this stuff. We already had like a gym model, bike, Life Cycle and all that. We got the SoulCycle and I said, “You got to get on it and start using it.” Any one of them will be fine. I’m going to start with one of them. He’s not super heavy or anything but he’s getting a little annoyed because his birthday is coming up. This is the same thing. When you go to these mastermind classes or you attend free webinars and they give you tips, you got to use those tips. They’re simple tips.

I love the book you wrote, How Hard Can It Be because nobody is talking about how hard, realistically speaking, from an entrepreneurship point of view. What I want to say to everyone is it is normal to be hard. You don’t learn how to ski, cook or do anything great by doing things that are super easy. I can ski but I’m not a professional skier or anything like that. When I see my kids ski or even professionals, they fall all the time. Watch the Olympics. How many people break their leg and fall but they get right back on and they are better. Apparently, with pins and stuff in their knees, they’re still better because they fell.

We have that when we are born. We start to walk, stumble, fall and we don’t stop. Otherwise, we would all be crawling and we don’t. We all walk. It’s around the teenage ages where everything becomes about conformism. You have to conform to that very box in which you’re going to exist for the rest of your life. You’re going to have grades and be graded on those. If you do below the average, you will fail and then we start to stigmatize failure. The less we fail and try, the more we supposedly fail in the eyes of society.

Slowly but surely, we become very rigid in our ways of looking at the world where in fact, we are meant to try stuff, to experience things and the only way to move forward is to try so much stuff out there, fail at them and recognize which one worked for you. We all feel it. You made that very interesting point. We have it from day one, from our birth. The very fact that you are on this Earth, the probabilities are crazy. It’s 1 to 400 trillion.

If you are on this Earth, it’s probably for a good reason. We are being falsely directed to do things that we don’t fully engage in because it doesn’t resonate with us and it makes us miserable. At the same time, we look at others who are supposedly successful. We put them on a pedestal and look at them as those great people that are different than us. They have something that we don’t have but it turns out we all have it. We are all the next great thing. It’s a matter of tuning to it.

Think about this, Arnaud, when you look at the companies that are now controlling our lives or those people who let them control. You’re looking at Google, Apple, Amazon, all these companies, except for Bezos, everybody else started their companies as a college dropout with less than $5,000 in total revenue. If you watch the Steve Jobs movie or you know anything about Amazon, they failed for the first ten years. Steve Jobs was even voted out of his own board. He was fired, came back and created the iPod.

MDH 59 | Learning From Mistakes

Learning From Mistakes: The only way to move forward is to try and fail at many things to know which one worked for you.


The resilience factor is a very big thing, believing in yourself. I’m not here to tell everybody, “As long as you’ve got a passion, you’re going to succeed.” You have to work hard and work hard consistently. I come from Korea. It’s true here, much more so here in America. When you go to school, your teachers, the society, your community leaders, everybody tells you they have their own definition of success. If you’re a lawyer, doctor, this or that, you’re successful.

I went to MBA school, I got a great grade in my MBA school and this is a true story. I didn’t want to go to MBA school. I wanted to be an artist. I want it to be van Gogh and I’m a pretty good painter. That’s all I wanted to do. My parents said, “I’m talking to so and so.” They’re immigrants here, “you got to be a doctor, lawyer, this and that.” I didn’t want to be that. In my family, I have four doctors and a lawyer but they made me go to MBA school and I did it.

I went to MBA school and I thought, “Maybe my parents were right because I can do this marketing thing.” That’s a creative thing. In advertising, I can create ads and slogans. I can deal with that. My professor at USC pulled me aside. He liked me, cared about me, gave me extra work and everything. He told me, “You’re never going to be good at marketing. You need to switch your major because you don’t understand the nuances of language and marketing. You have to understand psychology. The American people think differently,” all this stuff.

I might not have got my degree in Finance, which I had no interest in it. Creative people don’t think about money. I went out and got that, $500 million later, primarily marketing, which I was pretty good at. Had I listened to him in that, given up my hope then and became a banker? I would have been fired from the first job because I can’t deal with numbers at all. The numbers bore me to death.

I have a degree but when you are in the most impressionable years in your life, about the seventh grade on, you’re being told what you’re good at. You’re going to be told pretty much what you’re going to succeed in. These are teachers that never gone out and lived the real-life out there, that entrepreneur life.

We were all given what we needed from the minute we were born. The word success, if you look at the personal lives of some of these people like Steve Jobs. He was an adopted kid, abandoned his own child, on and on. When we talk about success, I talk about the quality of your life more than the digits you have in your bank. If you’re going to go after that, I would highly recommend that you pick up this book, How Hard Can It Be.

Many of you know I’m an avid reader. I read about 30 to 40 books every year. I’m a very curious person. I lived on a small island in Korea, that’s how I saw the world and that’s how I learned. I still have this love for books. I don’t normally recommend a lot of books for my people to read because books take a lot of time. You’re asking people to invest time in you. I think this book is one that every entrepreneur should read because you are going to face times when you’re going to give up and say, “It’s not worth it.” At that time, you’re going to be given some tools to cope with that. Thank you so much for coming in and sharing your time with me and my audience.

If you want to pick up the book or know more about the book or about Arnaud and his journey, which is fascinating. You could go to Thank you so much for coming and if you have not subscribed, please go ahead, share, subscribe and more than anything, go ahead and give me a review. I’m not asking anybody to give me a great with you. I’m asking you to give me some honest feedback on every episode because that’s how I grow. It’s okay not to give me a five-star review. I’m okay with that. Being in a creative world, I get a lot of real honest feedback and that’s what we thrive on. Until next time, please stay healthy and happy. We’ll see you soon.

Thank you, Victoria. Thanks for having me.

Thank you.


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About Arnaud Henneville-Wedholm

MDH 59 | Learning From MistakesArnaud Henneville-Wedholm is an entrepreneur, author and optimist. Today, he leads sales and business development at GLOBHE, a platform for drone data on demand. He also mentors startups at the Nordic Startup School. Arnaud is the founder of multiple startups, including internalDesk, a SaaS platform for enterprise collaboration, where he served as COO. internalDesk was recognized as one of the ‘Top10 Tech Rising Stars’ in the Nordics in 2014 and was acquired in 2019. He has worked many years in Change management. He holds an MBA from the University of Leicester, UK. Arnaud’s interest areas include entrepreneurship and everything related to mindset and wellbeing. He lives in Stockholm, Sweden with his wife and three children.

MDH 42 | Video Marketing

MDH 42 | Video Marketing


Video marketing is the new way of business today. Back then, only a few had a television. Now, everyone has a screen in the palm of their hands. In this episode, Victoria Wieck brings in Suzanne Glover to talk about the importance of video as a medium for putting out your expertise into the world. Suzanne is an award-winning professional actress for over 35 years. Discover her journey into the entertainment industry and the many things she learned from it. Learn what makes a video influencer and how to properly market it. Plus, learn about her new book, Be A Video Influencer: Reinvent Your Life & Business As A Midlife Movie Star! Join in the conversation and be a video influencer today.

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Embracing The New Way Of Business: Video Marketing And Being A Video Influencer With Suzanne Glover

I don’t know if you’ve noticed but the whole world is changing. As I get older, the world is changing more and more rapidly. No matter what age you’re at now, and I’m talking to a lot of you who are my age group, and I’m not going to give up my age but somewhere between 45 and 65, you feel like sometimes you’re lost, because the whole world has gone to video. You go on a website, its video, click on a dress and some model is demonstrating how great she looks on video.

Video marketing has become very important if you’re a small business owner, and yet, it is something that we don’t really understand because we didn’t grow up in that environment. We grew up in a, “Hello, how are you?” Shaking hands. We barely had cell phones back then. If you are one of those people, don’t worry because I’ve got a video expert, and I’m telling you she’s not just the sales video expert in everything you do in the video.

She can unlock the code and make it super simple for you, everything from how to look great on TV, to what to say to not be nervous, all those things that happen to you when a camera is standing in front of you. Without further ado, I’m going to invite and because I’m going to have her tell you her story, and what she does and all that. Her name is Suzanne Glover, she’s not related to Danny Glover.

I’m going to put that out there because it’s the same last name but anyways, Suzanne Glover has been a professional actress for many years, and she didn’t stop there. She basically used the techniques and skills that you learned in-camera to professional sales. Nowadays, of course, she kept on evolving. She is an internet marketer for the last several years. Welcome, Suzanne, to the show.

Thank you, Victoria. It’s wonderful to be here and thank you for inviting me.

Every single small business owner should have a video brand message on their website.

The world is changing and it’s a good thing in many ways for people like you and me because we have been forced to be on camera, and for many years, that’s what we did for a living. For a lot of people, I even know podcasters who are not on video, and they freeze over a microphone. They don’t freeze over meeting a person like a real-life person but they freeze over this little piece of equipment, so it’s interesting.

Give me a quick background about how you grew up because I want to really deep dive into your background but I believe that everybody’s early years shaped what they do for the rest of their lives. Give our audience a few sentences about who you are, how you were raised, and then how you got into acting, and how did you end up doing what you’re doing now.

When I was about ten years old, I was tall. People said, “You look like Cheryl Tiegs.” Remember her? She was the top model. It then went into Paulina. I evolved but Cheryl Tiegs was the first one. They said, “You should be a model. You’re this gazelle.” I did, but it was a short-lived thing because modeling is tough. You got to be young and whatever. I had to pivot to being a TV actress, and it was the same thing that’s going on with video nowadays for business people. They have this business, that’s good. All of a sudden, the world goes virtual, “What happened?” That’s what happened to me.

I marketed myself, I got my first little commercial. It was a local cable TV commercial. I resisted it at first because I thought, “I don’t want to be a model. I’m too old. I don’t like it.” In the TV world, you get residuals when you get a good commercial. This was a small commercial. It wasn’t any residuals but it was my first commercial. The action was to lean down in the stream, scoop up water, turn to the camera, and say something, and what happened? Nothing.

Fast forward, I got through that, the commercial went on to be award-winning and I thought, “I can do this. No, I can’t.” Back and forth, it was very competitive. Remember back then, they would watch the tapes on VHS, and they would fast-forward them if you’re in an audition. You have to catch their attention, just like scrolling nowadays in the newsfeed. I was up against a lot of competition, so what I did was I got a mentor, learned it, and work together. Every time I was in an audition, ideas were dropped from the sky, and I would discover things.

Over 35 years, I ended up getting my first national commercial, got residuals for three years, taught for Screen Actors Guild, their conservatory. I ended up in the top percentage of the Screen Actors Guild, and I even was elected to their Executive Council. I got successful in the industry but then I had to pivot into my own business because I opened my own school. I had to start all over again because when you’re a talent, you show up, you do your thing, you learn. I’ve had to do the camera, the tech.

It’s a lot of work, and its many different disciplines too that has come together at the same time.

MDH 42 | Video Marketing

Video Marketing: You need to take the video medium seriously. Back in the day, not everyone could afford video. But today, you have to get your mind around it and accept it.


That’s what they’re facing now, so I help them with that. It’s because I’m a salesperson, I also bring my sales into the video realm, and I started winning my auditions when I started using my persuasive skills. I’ve been on the internet now for many years video marketing, and it should be very strategic but a lot of people do way too much video. I hone it into what they need to do.

I know that you teach the video marketing, you’ve written a book. In fact, that book is called how to Be A Video Influencer, which is we’re going to give you all information on that but it’s at What I love about what you’ve done so far in your background is that, if you were learning how to be a video influencer and that you went to school to be a video influencer, you wouldn’t have the impact that you would actually have now. Having gone through those vulnerable moments in auditions are scary time is when people fast forward and act like you don’t even exist.

All those things, the emotions, the ups and downs that you’ve gone through when somebody comes to you looking for help and they say, “I’m scared of the microphone or how do I look?” Even the most confident people in the world, if they get in from a camera and they seem to completely lose a sense of who they are, you have a lot of empathy for them because you went through that for years.

I don’t know if you have the same feelings I do or not, and I have been on TV for many years every month. Usually, when I’m on with 3 or 4 different hosts for the day, the people that actually work in the station. I’ve asked the same question to each of those people as well. Some of them they’re like, “It’s like breathing, I go on TV. I don’t even see the microphone, a TV or the screen anymore.”

Others will say, “I still get butterflies every single time.” It’s a combination of both, because as experienced people on camera, there are still moments in times, a certain script or whatever it is that you do that actually does scare you. When you have clients, and you teach them how to overcome those fears, how to look good or how to say something when you feel uncomfortable, you have experienced all those moments, and not just once, twice or three times, you’ve done this for many years. That’s a long time.

What’s interesting Suzanne is that this whole area of video marketing is exploding, every company is looking for ambassadors. It’s my belief that every single small business owner should have a video brand message on their website, and yet so many people who teach this, they’ve never been on TV. They couldn’t pitch themselves to go on TV or do an audition. They’d be scared to death, so how are they teaching this stuff?

It’s so aggravating that people don’t have any experience and they’re all, “Makeup artists. I can teach you how to be on camera.”

A lot of people who think that their internet marketing is video marketing, it’s not. To be completely honest with you, I have not read Be A Video Influencer, partly because I feel like that’s not the book that I’m going to need now to get my life going. If you are somebody who understands you need the videos. Facebook, Google, Apple, even Amazon, everybody’s going video. They’ve all got some live streaming thing. The more video skills you understand, the better it is.

You can’t just post videos online. You need a strategy to have success.

The other thing I love about what Suzanne has been doing to her work is that she’s not telling you, there are a lot of people out there teaching you how to look great on camera, how to get great makeup on, how to work on lighting or how to talk to the mic, all the different technical skills. Let me tell you something. I was on a channel, HSN had 180 million homes reached, the people that go on it, 90% of them fail. They get great lighting, makeup, a lot of stuff, they look good.

I’ve seen that over and over again. They don’t have any essence.

They don’t have the authenticity. They don’t know what to do.

They don’t know what to say to sell.

When you combine all of this, that becomes very powerful. Let’s go back to what you do now. What really impressed me about your background more than anything, all the stuff that is on your bio. It is quite impressive that many years, getting a national commercial, and you’re teaching people on Screen Actors Guild. Even just the one thing, it’s a lot but everything you’ve done is very impressive.

The thing that impressed me the most about this whole thing is how you sold timeshares. Let me tell you something, whenever somebody comes in or they want to say like, “We’ll give you $200 gift or whatever,” I run the other way. I don’t even want to listen to it because it’s so boring and high pressure. I wouldn’t listen to it. The fact that you were able to sell it is impressive, so we’re going to get back to that.

I did it with integrity. I didn’t have cancels, and I didn’t push people into it. It was very authentic.

This show is a lot about actionable tips. If you had to give somebody three major steps, that could be baby steps, to become a video influencer, what are the steps 1, 2, and 3 that you would share?

I have a formula, that’s 7 steps but it’s got 3 sections in it, so that’s perfect. The first section, the way you begin is obviously mindset because even when I had to do this for my own business, I had to start directing myself. I had to become the camera person. I had to become all those things. The most important thing was this is a thing for my business, and that means the pressure is on, rather than show up and let everyone else do everything. I had to do it for myself. I talk about mind and body. That’s the most important thing to realize. I’m talking NLP, I’m a hypnotherapist.

It’s more important to realize that you need to take the video medium seriously and get your mind around it to accept that this is what’s happening nowadays. When you and I were way back when, it was a small group of people, it was this us and them thing, it was us on TV and their mouths there. That stigma is still around particularly for you. I’m in my 60s, so I remember us and them. People our age from about 40 to 60 are still feeling that, “I’m not good enough. I have to get my hair done. I have to do all this stuff.”

If they accept that it’s the new way of doing business and that they can embrace it and understand that it’s not their fault, they can’t do it. All of a sudden, the world is asking them to be a TV spokesperson. You and I got training. We were trained. They’re not getting the training these days, so that’s one. Number two, once you start becoming more authentic, and you start feeling better about being on camera, then you want to start learning what to say, and what to say means, “I want to use my people’s words.”

MDH 42 | Video Marketing

Video Marketing: You need to embrace the new way of doing business while having compassion for yourself.


I was doing radio and podcasts before. I had a positive thinking course. The word that I found was a personal development junkie. That was the phrase that people would reiterate back to me. I would never have used that word but as soon as I started using personal development junkie in my podcast and in my radio appearances, people would respond because they could relate to it.

You were saying that use the language that they understand or they relate to.

There’s a certain way to find it. Once you embrace video and you understand that it’s not your fault, that you’re not good at it, you have some compassion for yourself, and you start getting over that mindset. I’m not talking positive thinking but I’m talking about using your mind and body together. You then start going into knowing what to say to engage people.

Number three, delivery. I’m going to tell you a little story here where I was in a Mastermind before, and there was a girl in there that she was doing her little thing. It was a Mastermind where we were filming in a professional studio. She was a young girl and she didn’t know what she was doing, and she stood up, she did a commercial, and everyone was like, “You need to smile more. You need more energy.” I thought, “That is not advice. I’m sorry. That is superficial. Why don’t you give her some tools?”

They said, “Why don’t you go out in the hallway to practice?” I happened to go to the bathroom at that point, I came out and said, “You want some coaching?” Less than five minutes. I taught her how to smile on camera. There’s a whole acting technique, a whole method of acting that I gave her in two minutes. I had her do it, I drilled her for about two minutes. I had her eye contact, body language, and her essence. We came back in and they were startled. She did her thing and it was like, “What happened?” It’s about a delivery, so that you can connect with this thing.

Those are the three things. Of course, there’s looking good, technology, and you can’t go and do this stuff without knowing how to market it. That’s important because you can do all this stuff, but then you do all these videos online and nobody, either too many or too few, and you don’t have a strategy, so I would add another fourth thing in there that you need a strategy to have video success online.

If you are interested, many of you are reading, and I know this is a new thing for you if you want to experience what Suzanne described this young lady being frozen and stuck in the middle of Mastermind, to unlocking that code inside of two minutes, I checked her out and she does offer a free consultation. You can experience that and get a real diagnosis of what you need to do or what you can do. Many of you might be able to get it done right there and then, so I encourage you to do that. Check out our website. I love those steps, and what I love about what you said too, it’s probably very similar for you.

When we were starting out in video acting in that arena, we were chasing the dream at that time. We didn’t know 35 years would go by. I’ve been in my business since 1989, so I’m very close in that regard but we’ve accumulated all this knowledge over time. When we try to unpack this now, that 35 years of experience, those painful moments, the great joys, and the a-ha moments that we’ve all experienced, it’s difficult to teach unless you have a system and a framework that works so that a lot of people who have similar issues can plug in some of that.

You only get the system, we haven’t gone through it like 16,000 pieces of something, the same thing. I love that because I’ve been on TV for many years live. I don’t say that to be braggadocious. What I will say is this, I don’t care who you are, how pretty you are, how thin you are, who your father is or whoever your producer is. If you don’t tell the truth, you don’t last for many years. It’s simple. I always tell the truth, and I was floored, I’ve been so busy, I still do my shows on ShopHQ, and that keeps me very busy.

You cannot teach emotions.

In fact, even before I went on this live show, I was still editing and designing my pieces for the 2021 collection. It’s a lot of work. I didn’t realize how many people are out there making a fortune, coaching video, teaching video, going about camera video influencer, video marketing, online, marketing, all of those things.

I found three people that actually made a living doing what they’re coaching. They’re professors, they’ve never actually pitched to a real-life station. If you’re going to get this experience from anybody, you might even get somebody who had been through all that because people like us, when we see something, “I got that.” I know you feel that way.

I worked for the Academy of Art University, where they only have people who are in the business because you can’t teach something that you’ve never experienced. When I see makeup artists or other people teaching this, it’s like, “I’m sorry.” It’s very offensive to me actually.

When it comes to teaching, this particular thing that we call video marketing, it’s something that I feel like it can’t be taught by a textbook because when we talk about video influencer, we’re only talking about one thing. That one thing is moving people’s emotions. You cannot teach emotions.

You can, as an actor.

You can learn to pretend to be somebody but what I’m saying is if you’re on video influencer and you’re trying to move somebody to absorb what you’re saying in a six-second video or whatever that you’ve got. That’s a very tough art to do consistently, especially over product, if you’re going through a midlife crisis and you’re getting through a divorce in the middle of cancer or something, those emotions are different than you’re trying to sell products. This is a very difficult piece to package and unpack but as I said, there are tools that you can use.

The one thing that Million Dollar Hobbies is about other than giving actual tools to chase their dreams, is transformation stories. You have transformed and evolved many times over. That takes a lot of discipline, curiosity, persistence, and willingness to do what it takes to do that. All those types of traits that you’ve had to acquire over time, sometimes it’s an acquired trait, it doesn’t come naturally.

It’s very valuable when you’re taking any mentorship or courses from someone. I thank you for coming in and sharing your knowledge on this. I know you wrote the book, Be A Video Influencer: Reinvent Your Life & Business As A Midlife Movie Star. If you can tell me two things about the book that’s in it, why should people buy it?

It is geared to a midlife person who’s busy. A lot of people, when they’re talking about video, “I have a successful business. I am starting to take care of grandma. I’m starting to take care of my mother. I’ve got teens.” They’re busy, so what I focus on and have a heart for are the midlife people because part of my story was, in my 40s, I started dropping away. I had to take care of mom, and that can have a zap effect on your business.

The book is understanding where you are, and it helps you say, “I need to do this. I understand I need to embrace this. This is a new way of doing business but have compassion for yourself.” This is why you can do this, even though you’re busy. That’s one angle. The other angle is my seven-step formula where I walked them through the actual formula to go for a system that I have, A, B, C, D, so that it’s not just, you’re looking at an elephant and you might be looking at the trunk, leg or the tail. That’s how people approach video now, “I need to get good on camera.” No, you need a synergistic, comprehensive, holistic approach.

MDH 42 | Video Marketing

Video Marketing: Be A Video Influencer: Reinvent Your Life & Business As A Midlife Movie Star! By Suzanne Glover

I blurted out that you do one-on-one consultation for free. If you’re reading now, video is where the world is going. I’m sure even if you’re a very young person, you remember when all the taxi drivers in every city said, “Uber? Who cares?” In many cities I go through, they can’t even get a taxi anymore. Don’t be the taxi driver waiting for the Uber to show up. Basically, Millennials are going to be here. They’re already the largest consumer of consumer goods, and they only buy the video. They don’t want to be at anything. I have a house full of Millennials.

When Suzanne talked about the mid-life people, I am in that group. As I speak to you now, I have my phone on because my mother is 100 years old, she’s in a 24-hour nursing care. My mother was in her 80s, and you’re right. When they both ended up having some health problems, my daughter was literally expecting, she went into labor. Between those things, we talk about busy. We’re very busy. However busy you are, and it’s great if you own your own business, then you can take the time to tend to your mother, to everybody in times of their need. That’s really important.

What I love about video, if you get trained correctly, is that it will save your time. It will create legions. If you were to read a three-page story about a brand, for example, if I were to tell you three-page story about my brand, how I immigrated from Korea, what life was like over there, all the things that shaped me and I had to describe them in words, versus a two-minute video with me smiling and wearing my jewelry. Think about that. It’ll save you time, money, and eventually, you’re going to be able to build a very loyal following.

I have done that over many years, so I highly suggest that if it’s not Suzanne, it’s somebody else, go ahead and do it because video is not going away. Basically, they’re not going to go back all of a sudden to the old ways of face-to-face or VHS. It’s going to get faster and faster. Get real, let’s embrace the new world together. I want to thank you Suzanne for being gracious enough with your time. How do people reach you if they want to connect with you?, that’s where you can get the book but also the free consultation where I diagnose where you are, where you’re going, what you need, and coach you a little bit, which is your name at

Thank you so much for doing that. Even if you aren’t even sure if the video is for you, maybe you don’t even have a business, you just want to take selfies or do videos for your Instagram, call her. What do you get to lose?

I want to do that special for your audience.

Thank you so much. All of you, if you haven’t subscribed to the YouTube channel or this show, go ahead and hit the subscribe button as soon as you can. I would greatly appreciate that. The other thing too is I don’t ask anybody to give me a great review. I ask you to give me an honest review because those reviews helped me improve the show.

If you tell me, “Your shows are too long or whatever.” We take all that into consideration and keep on improving. If you can go ahead and do that too, we would appreciate that very much. Lastly, I always sign off with my favorite saying, until next time, stay healthy, stay well, and remember, happiness is a choice, and I hope you make great choices.

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About Suzanne Glover

MDH 42 | Video MarketingAs a professional actress for over 35 years, Suzanne has learned camera strategies that have gained her recognition in the field with award winning work. She has been in the top percentage of earners in the Screen Actors Guild, taught for the Guild, and successfully taught these strategies to entrepreneurs like you so they know how to connect through the camera and sell successfully in the new virtual world.
As a sales professional for over 20 years, Suzanne has been a top producer selling the tough stuff — the intangibles like “fame” [modeling and acting services]… “vacation” [timeshare]… and “love” [matchmaking services]. She’s gotten prospects to happily hand over thousands of dollars in the first, short meeting together… without high pressure tactics or cancellations.
And, as a internet marketer for over 20 years, Suzanne’s learned how complicated the online world can be and has found ways to simplify it for you.
Plus, she’s been through the midlife years where she had to keep her business going while she had elderly parent emergencies and menopause meltdowns. Now she’s on the other side and teaching others to not only embrace midlife, but excel and learn how to turn the clock back on aging too!
She has taken these areas of her life and condensed them into her current business where she helps you leverage her experience and cut your learning curve way down so you can make video a key part of your business quickly.